Her current exhibition, Giving You The Best That I Got, on view for just a few more days at Art + Practice in collaboration with the California African American Museum, is a powerful meditation on Black motherhood—spotlighting the narratives, visuals, and emotional depth too often absent from contemporary art spaces. As Clayton shares, it’s “one of the most special projects of my career and a highlight in my journey as a mother and a daughter.” If you’re in L.A., consider this your cue to run, not walk (it closes March 7th).

For this installment of Mother Essentials, Clayton’s picks reflect a woman in a new chapter. “I am a completely different mom now than when I was chasing after toddlers!” she explains. “I used to swear by all the latest kids gear and healthy snacks, now I’m in the era of pouring back into myself so I can power through the upcoming teen years!”

What follows is a list that’s less about sippy cups and more about slick buns, statement rings, favorite bookstores and coffee shops, and the rituals—big and small—that sustain her.

Art + Practice. “This art exhibition space in L.A. is where my current show Giving You The Best That I Got is on view through March 7th. The exhibition is presented in collaboration with the California African American Museum and explores the deeper narratives and visuals and emotions associated with Black motherhood, which we don’t often see in contemporary art. As a Black mother of 3 girls, this is one of the most special projects of my career and a highlight in my journey as a mother and a daughter. I can’t wait to expand the show and take it to new cities and be in community with even more artist mothers.” ArtandPractice.org and CAAMuseum.org

Lore Leimert Bookstore. “This newly opened independent bookstore and community space in Leimert Park (a cute historically Black enclave in South Los Angeles) is across the street from my exhibition. I’ve spent a lot of time here over the past 6 months, moderated an artist talk, and dragged my kids inside every time. Luckily there’s the cutest kids nook where my daughters are able to kick back, read books, and do arts and crafts.” @LoreLeimertPark

Clearly Canadian. “While I’m proudly Californian, I do enjoy an international beverage. I used to drink these when they were popular in the ’90s. Now they are back, and my kids, who are dual Canadian citizens, really love these!” Clearly Canadian Sparkling Flavored Water (12-Pack), $40.99, Walmart.

Black Strap Molasses. “My grandma used to always eat spoonfuls of molasses or put it in hot cereal or pancakes. As a kid, I thought it was gross. Now as an adult with bad anemia, it’s a lifesaver. I sneak it into smoothies for the family and it blends in perfectly with the nutrients we all need.” Organic Black Strap Molasses, $17.99, Amazon.

Black Paper Party. “My old college roommate, Madia Willis, started this holiday gift wrapping company. They have now expanded from Christmas wrapping paper and gift bags to a whole line of PJs, housewares, and more.” BlackPaperParty.com

Jo Phillipe Parfum. “Founded by another mama, Imani Bordeaux, I love the La Sirene and Dirty Gold scents. So fresh and subtle. Just like me.” La Sirène Eau de Parfum, $89, Jo Phillipe.

Harun Coffee. “A newly renovated coffee shop and speakeasy just next door to Lore Leimert Park. It’s a perfect mix of coffee, tea, art, and vibes. It feels like a home away from home for me.” @Harun.Coffee

Kiss Edge Fixer in Strawberry Acai. “I often have to go from day to night activities for work. Nothing beats a clean slick middle part bun and this edge control gets all my flawaways in check. And my teenager always steals this for her baby hairs, so I have to buy multiples.” Edge Fixer Gel, $9.49, Kiss.

Melody Ehsani Clothes & Accessories. “They remind me of the cool girl I was before having children. Melody is also an L.A. native like me, so our style and vibe is very much in sync. I wear my Pay Me ring whenever I’m at art functions and important meetings as a gentle reminder that my ideas and labor are not free!” Pay Me Ring, $58, Melody Ehsani.

Betsey Johnson Accessories. “Betsey Johnson is one of my favorite designers since childhood. Every year I treat myself to a fun shoe or bag. I hope to amass a fun collection my daughters can wear for all their future parties and special occasions.” Masen Heel, $129, Betsey Johnson.

Dr. Scholl’s Sandals. “I’ve been wearing these wooden clogs since highschool. My kids know I mean business when they hear me clanking down the hall in these shoes. I also have flat feet, so the wood helps keep my feet in great alignment. My daughters also love slipping these on.” Original Sandal, $140, Dr. Scholl’s.

Deeluxe Soaps. “My mom has been a serial entrepreneur since I was a kid. The perk is that I always get to be the first customer or taste tester! She currently has a soap line, which is so fun and kitschy and a reminder to my kids to stay fresh! They also make the best gifts!” DeeLuxeSoaps.com

For more MOTHER ESSENTIALS, peep our recent features with food star Jing Gao of Fly by Jing, Sarah Fritsch of Studio Tigress, artist Lena Corwin, Hello!Lucky’s sister duo, doula and author Latham Thomas, Carla Wingett of Idlewild Floral, Andrea Faulkner Williams of Tubby Todd, Hana Getachew of Bole Road Textiles, artist & author Carissa Potter Carlson, actress & activist Hilary Swank, the co-founders of Hearth Display, author and organizer Aida Mariam Davis, design consultant Joyce Lee, self-care advocate Rachel Garahan, and DJ and director Va$htie Kola.

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Now based in Nevada, Jing balances the demands of founder life with raising her toddler son, Kai (you might remember her touching essay on being reborn as a mother). In her Mother Essentials list below, she shares the rituals and everyday comforts that nourish herself and her family—showing how food is both her creative medium and love language. From toddler-approved Chinese music books and her “morning pages” ritual, to her Fly by Jing favorites and local hikes through the red rock canyons, these are the products and practices keeping Jing fueled and inspired every day.

Fly By Jing Classic Soy Noodles. “A key comfort food in our house. They’re quick enough for busy evenings (6 minutes!), flavorful enough for adults, and—because they’re our very first non-spicy noodle—simple enough to share with kids.” Classic Soy Noodles (6-Pack), $30, Fly by Jing.

Bao Bao Learns Chinese. “A great music book for toddlers to learn Chinese via catchy songs. Kai loves listening and singing along to the same Chinese nursery rhymes that I grew up with. This is a playful, accessible, and a sweet way to keep culture woven into our everyday life.” Bao Bao Learns Chinese Vol. 1, $28.99, Amazon.

The Regulars Bundle by Tubby Todd. “My son has sensitive skin, so anything that’s gentle and reliable is immediately an everyday essential.” The Regulars Bundle, $49, Tubby Todd.

Expand Meditation App. “Even five quiet minutes can entirely shift the tone of my day. Being a founder means keeping my calm when things get chaotic, so it’s important to me that this is a part of my daily practice.” MonroeInstitute.org

Morning Pages (The Artist’s Way). “If you’ve ever read The Artist’s Way, you’ll know the power of the morning pages. I’m still dedicated to doing these daily—even years later. The stream-of-consciousness style of writing helps me clear my mind first thing in the morning and, maybe most importantly, stay connected to my inner voice.” The Artist’s Way, $22.37, Bookshop and Amazon.

Hiking the Red Rock Canyons. “Getting outside for me is non-negotiable. Whether it’s a long hike or a simple walk, the fresh air and scenery helps me recalibrate. It’s been fun to share that with Kai as he gets older and begins to appreciate the views as well.” Red Rock Canyon National Conservation Area.

Toiro Donabe With Steamer Attachment. “One of the most versatile pieces in my kitchen. I use it for steaming vegetables, seafood, rice—even simmering broths. Steaming in a donabe preserves the natural sweetness and delicacy of ingredients, and when you steam over kombu water or dashi, it infuses everything with deep umami. It makes simple, nourishing family meals feel elevated.” Donabe Steamer, $240, Toiro.

Zojirushi Rice Cooker. “Speaking of rice, one of the most game-changing kitchen tools is a simple rice cooker. It saves me the hassle of manually preparing the rice (so I can prep the other parts of the meal in the meantime), but the end result is consistent and high quality.” Zojirushi Rice Cooker, $55.99, Amazon.

Fly By Jing Electric Hot Pot Starter Set. “Hot pot has always been about the joy of gathering around a table with people you love, but it’s taken on new meaning since becoming a mom. It gives me a bit of extra time and space to spend time with my family at the end of hectic founder days.” Hot Pot Starter Set, $130, Fly By Jing.

The Book of Sichuan Chili Crisp. “My cookbook—The Book of Sichuan Chili Crisp—offers some really great recipes that are rooted in tradition but adapted for the modern kitchen. It’s easy inspo for elevating your go-to family meals with a little something extra.” The Book of Sichuan Chili Crisp: Spicy Recipes and Stories from Fly By Jing’s Kitchen, $18, Amazon and Bookshop.

Ghia. “An easy non-alc beverage everyone loves. I’m a big fan of a quick and easy drink option that makes my at-home meals feel a little extra special. Ghia’s great if you’re cutting back on alcohol. It’s a big crowd-pleaser—so it works equally as well for hosting as it does for nights in with the family.” Ghia Non-Alcoholic Apéritif, $38, Amazon.

Blueland Cleaning Products. “Making meals at home means slightly more mess than ordering in, but I love Blueland because it makes the clean-up process feel extra simple and safe—key for me as a newer mom. I’m partial to their multi-surface cleaner, which is free from parabens, phosphates, ammonia, VOCs, chlorine bleach, and phthalates, and—best of all—is easily refillable.” Blueland Multi-surface Cleaner Starter Set, $16, Blueland.

Ballymaloe Cookery School in Cork, Ireland. “I gifted myself a birthday trip to Ballymaloe Cookery School in Cork, Ireland for a week-long homesteading course. It was transformative. Learning about growing, cooking, and sustaining food systems felt especially poignant as a mother and left me dreaming about starting a farm of my own someday.” Ballymaloecookeryschool.ie

Chiyo. “This TCM-based meal delivery service was originally designed for prenatal and postpartum care, but honestly, I still order from them regularly. It’s deeply nourishing, beautifully prepared food—for anyone, anytime.” WeAreChiyo.com

For more MOTHER ESSENTIALS, peep our recent features with Sarah Fritsch of Studio Tigress, artist Lena Corwin, Hello!Lucky’s sister duo, doula and author Latham Thomas, Carla Wingett of Idlewild Floral, Andrea Faulkner Williams of Tubby Todd, Hana Getachew of Bole Road Textiles, artist & author Carissa Potter Carlson, actress & activist Hilary Swank, the co-founders of Hearth Display, author and organizer Aida Mariam Davis, design consultant Joyce Lee, self-care advocate Rachel Garahan, and DJ and director Va$htie Kola.

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Yes, teenagers may be hormonal and are starting to deal with the pressures from school, their peers, and social media. However, more and more parents these days are sharing just how incredible the teenage years can be with the right approach and giving those of us who are apprehensive a little ray of hope. Connecting with your teen is vital to a healthy and open relationship, and doing so is actually much easier than you may think. Take a look at these tried-and-true tips on how to easily bond with your soon-to-be or already-there teenager.

Open Your Doors. Teenagers usually have one thing at the top of their minds and that’s their friendships. Invite your teens to have their buddies over to your house as often as comfortably possible, letting your house become a warm, fun home-base for after-school hangs, weekend get-togethers, and sleepovers. This way, you can get to know your child’s circle of friends and keep a close watch without being overbearing.

Rituals. Creating traditions and rituals together is a really great way to bond, have fun together, and make special memories as a family. Maybe it’s going to eat at everyone’s favorite local restaurant each week, watching a crowd-pleasing show together (like The Office or Abbott Elementary), starting—and finishing—a series of puzzles, or treating yourselves and the kids to something special once a month for good grades, hard work, good manners and attitudes. Whatever it is, make it fitting for your unique family and stick with it.

Dine Together. There’s no better time to connect than over a meal. Make sitting down and eating together as a family a regular thing in your home, whether it’s breakfast, lunch time, a weekend brunch, or dinner. Here, you can catch up, share stories, and strike up a conversation about current events. If your kids’ ages are spread out, one-on-one meals with just your teens can be really beneficial, allowing them to feel comfortable opening up and having adult conversations with mom or dad.

Sweet Nothings. No matter how “cool” and “grown up” your teen may think they are, they still love and crave affection. Easily connect your with your teen on a daily basis by doing those things that come naturally to you as a parent—saying “I love you” often, making sure to always tell your teens “good night” and “good morning,” surprising them with their favorite after-school snack in the pantry, or making a big breakfast before school are all extremely simple ways to show how much you care, and are appreciated by kids of all ages.

Follow Their Lead. So, your teenage son is into basketball or your teenage daughter has a strong interest in art. Suggest to shoot some hoops one afternoon or sign you and your daughter up for a fun painting session at a local art center. It’s important to support your kid’s interests and get involved when and where you can.

Make A Date. Let’s face it, between our busy schedules and the activities and homework of our teens, finding time to do much of anything else can easily become an after-thought. Make an effort to schedule regular “dates” with your young adults—catch a matinee, go fishing, take them to go see a concert, go for a hike, take them on a practice driving session, or bring your teenage daughter along for a mani-pedi. Spending more time together is a surefire way to keep your bond tight and have fun doing so!

Work Together. No one likes to do chores, but it certainly makes them seem a lot more tolerable when you have some help. Instead of waiting until the mess is out of hand, designate an afternoon once a week where the entire family gets together and helps each other dust and vacuum the house, mow the grass, do the laundry, etc. This way it’s all-hands-on-deck and you can turn on some music and pump out the chores while making it fun.

Get Cooking. Is your teen a foodie like you? Invite him or her to help make dinner, Sunday brunch, or have them choose a weekly recipe that you make together to contribute to the family meal plan. Not only is this a good way to get some extra hands in the kitchen, but it’s also a great time to reconnect and talk about what’s going on in your child’s life. Ask questions and show genuine interest in what’s happening in his or her personal life and at school. Make sure to relate and offer advice in an adult-to-adult way instead of a mom-to-kid way, which will make your teen feel more open to communicating freely.

Just Listen. All-in-all, what teenagers really need are parents who are genuinely interested in what they have to say. These years can be trying for young-adults and the seemingly little things can feel like really big things to them, whether they’re struggling with grades, rejection, bullies, or just feeling overwhelmed. You want to be the person they come to when things get tough, no matter what. Welcome and encourage your child to come to you anytime they just need to talk, ask, or cry it out in a no-judgement-zone.

Keep It Real. While all of these tips may sound great, don’t start planning your brand new “Mommy-and-Me” schedule quite yet. Talk to you teen about spending more time together. Mention some of the suggestions above and start off slow—after all, they are still teenagers.

This article was originally published in June 2016.

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Her list is guided by a clear thread: joy drawn from nature and family, minimizing environmental impact, strict phone boundaries, giving back, and a commitment to being fully in the now. Because that philosophy touches every part of her days, these Mother Essentials are expansive and thoughtfully divided into three parts: Things Allie uses and loves, Practices that shape her rhythms, and Causes she actively supports and fights for. Together, they form a grounded, intentional blueprint for a life rooted in presence, wonder, and care.

Dr. Bronner’s Sal Suds. “I use this as a base to make laundry detergent, dish soap, dishwasher soap, and all-purpose cleaning spray. After having kids, I became hyper aware of the ingredients in all the daily products we use. Not just food, but cleaning supplies, makeup, lotion, shampoo, etc.” Dr. Bronner’s Sal Suds Biodegradable Cleaner, $14.69, Thrive Market.

Recycled & Repurposed Jean Jacket. “This is the jacket I grab everyday before running out the door. Local S.F. designer Gene Duven makes small batch beautiful streetwear with cast away jeans that are out of style or headed for the incinerator. She just opened a local store in December: Space Craft Earth at 755 Taraval Street.” Denim Jacket, $420, WRN FRSH.

Kamperett Clothing. “My Oma Dress in Japanese Cotton Cabana Stripe is my uniform. I throw this dress on to go to anything and everything and I always feel ready to go. Designer Anna Chiu is a genius at designing womenswear that makes you feel elegant and beautiful.” Kamperett.com

Bikini + Vivida Towel Jacket. “Both of these are necessary for cold plunging and swimming in the Bay. My family gifted me the towel jacket a few years ago and it was the best gift ever! So much better than putting my fleece on after.” Bikini, $9, Target. All Weather Puffer Changing Robe, $420, Vivida.

Hoka Speedgoat Trail Shoes. “Trail running is often my only time alone and one of my favorite things to do to stay fit and balanced. I prefer a narrow trail in the trees for miles. Also, I’m pretty sure the endorphins keep the smile on my face.” Speedgoat 6 GTX, $170, Hoka.

Galaxy Mapper. “After writing this book, my daughter Nova wants to be an astrophysicist—my job is done!” Galaxy Mapper: The Luminous Discoveries of Astrophysicist Hélène Courtois, $17.70, Bookshop.

Odin: Dog Hero of the Fires. “Really, I love any book by local S.F. writer Emma Bland Smith. She is our household’s favorite author.” Odin: Dog Hero of the Fires, $13.04, Bookshop.

San Francisco Public Library. “I am literally in love with the San Francisco Public Library and so grateful to all the librarians. I still think it’s magic that you can put books on hold and have them delivered to your preferred branch. Plus, I print everything at the library ($2.00 worth of printing a day!). I’m always doing research for books and new topics and I couldn’t do it without the library resources. I listen to audio books from Libby and Hoopla in the car. It seems like this is the last truly free institution. Plus, you walk in and it’s like a warm hug.” SFPL.org

Notebook + Pen. “I start every project with a pen to paper and fill up a notebook every few months. I use spiral-bound decomposition notebooks and a Swiss Caran d’ Ache ballpoint pen.” Decomposition Notebook, $12, Decomposition. Popline Ballpoint Pen, $42.30, Caran d’ Ache.

Berkey Gravity Water Filtration System. “I’ve had this system for over 10 years. It requires a lot of maintenance, but it’s worth it for clean water you can trust.” Big Berkey Water Filter, $367, Berkey.

Klean Kanteen Stainless Steel Water Bottle. “I bring water everywhere I go. These don’t have any plastic touching your water. I love the bamboo lid because it sits flat when you set it down and it’s stainless steel.” 27oz Reflect with Bamboo Cap, $32.95, Klean Kanteen.

House Plants. “Plants bring such an absurd amount of joy into my house. This past summer, my fishbone cactus had its first ephemeral nocturnal bloom. The fragrance permeated the entire room and the blossom was only open for a few hours.”

Coffee + Pour-Over Set. “That warm cup of morning coffee made with intention and care (my beans are solar roasted in Maine). It is the fuel for the rocket ship.” Ethiopia Light Roast Coffee, $20, Precipice Coffee. Stagg [XF] Pour-Over Set, $99.95, Fellow.

Moxi Roller Skates. “Roller skating is one of my favorite things to do. I need to find some skating friends, because my family rarely wants to go with me. If you could bottle San Francisco and release its essence, you’d find it at the 6th Ave. outdoor roller skate park in Golden Gate Park.” Skates, $199, Moxi Skates.

The Visitors at SFMOMA. “This video installation by Icelandic artist Ragnar Kjartansson was so great. I’m so sad it closed. When it was open, I would go all the time. I would sit there for the hour loop and feel swollen by everything that is beautiful and joyful about humanity. I cried happy tears every time. I still try to go to SFMOMA monthly, but I miss The Visitors.” The Visitors at SFMOMA.

California Academy of Sciences Membership. “Nova and I love attending the monthly Dean Astronomy Lectures (the first Monday evening of the month). They invite an astronomy professor or researcher to share their research in the planetarium. It’s fascinating to hear what is being studied and discovered and it makes me feel like a college student again, for a night.” CalAcademy.org

Quiet Time Organic Cotton Bath Towels. “I love the designs, but mostly I love wrapping myself and my kids in organic cotton towels.” Ultimate Bath Sheet Bundle, $199, Quiet Town.

Clothes from NOOMOON. “This store has such a beautiful collection of curated gently used clothes. Nova loves that she can trade in things she’s outgrown and use the trade in money towards something new. It’s rare that kids have purchasing power and NOOMOON makes this possible. Plus, I love that it keeps kids clothes in the cycle for longer—so sustainable!” Noomoon.shop

Fluf Organic Cotton Lunch Bag. “It fits containers, a water bottle, and is soft to hold and easy to wash.” Zipper Lunch Bag, $36.95, Fluf.

Stainless Steal Bento Box. “My 12 and 10 year old girls have had these containers since kindergarten and they are still going strong. They don’t hold smell and they can obviously take a beating. This is a must-have. I got myself the bigger version!” 3-in-1 Classic Box, $40, EcoLunchBox.

Rising Early. “I wake up absurdly early (naturally). I cherish the quiet house and the uninterrupted time to write, read, do yoga, or catch up with my European friends, before starting the morning school-prep routine.”

Sweating. “Moving my body is a must. Run, bike, or swim—I joke that I do two-thirds of a triathlon every day. I either swim and bike with Zuri to school or run and bike with Zuri to school. I also pepper in yoga, walking, rock climbing, and weight lifting. I’ve heard from so many friends and experts that weight lifting is incredibly important to us women as we age, so I’ve recently added that in.”

Cold Plunging in the Bay. “I love a cold plunge and swim at Crissy Field beach with beach cleanup after (I believe in always leaving a place better than you found it!). The beach is a five minute walk from our house and I go there a few times a week with my dog and sometimes Zuri if she doesn’t have too much homework! Walking out of the cold water, I feel this euphoric sensation that everything is possible—I can do anything; the day is mine and life is beautiful. That’s probably why I keep going back even when it’s windy and freezing out.”

Beach Cleanup. “Every time I go to the beach, I pick up trash. There’s a great organization called Take 3 For the Sea that encourages everyone to take three pieces of rubbish when they go to the beach. It’s so easy and it makes a difference.”

Redwoods. “There is something majestic about redwood trees and I just want to be surrounded by them all the time, especially when it rains.”

Connections. “The time difference makes it hard to have regular phone conversations with my European friends who are like family. Sometimes I drink my morning coffee in the nook and listen to voice memos from my European friends and I send them a voice memo back. It makes me feel like we are having a café moment together.”

Breakfast. “After all the school dropoffs and walking the dog, I try to carve out 10-15 minutes to sit down for a quiet breakfast with myself and a book. Ahhhhh.”

Location Books. “I’m always reading 7-10 books at once. I have ‘location books’—one on the dining table, one by the couch, one in the bathroom, a few in my handbag, and so many on my desk. This way I can read wherever I am.”

Boundaries with my Phone. “I’m aware this is a luxury most cannot afford, but I’m lucky enough to be able to set strict boundaries with my phone. If I don’t actively need it, it sits in a cubby in the kitchen far away from me and at night it sleeps down there and I sleep upstairs. I don’t bring it on walks, runs, swims, etc. I wear an analog watch, so I don’t need my phone to tell time. Also, I batch respond-to emails and texts so I’m not constantly interrupted by this or that, but also because I like to be thoughtful and present in my responses and I can’t do that if I’m on-the-go. On the flip side, I’m grateful that it exists and I can respond to my editor from the top of a mountain or photograph a magical moment with my kids!”

Weekend Dog Walks with my Husband. “We chat about life and parenting and all the things. It feels good to reconnect after a busy week. BE PRESENT, NOW. I have always struggled with being in the moment, so most of these practices nudge me to remain present in the now—experiencing and sinking into the life that is happening right at that very moment and not thinking about my to-do list.”

EWG (Environmental Working Group). “I love and support the work they do to fight for cleaner products, produce, and water. They have a useful searchable cosmetics database where they rate every ingredient in cosmetics as well as the overall products on a scale of 1 (best/green) to 10 (worst/red). Annually, they test produce for pesticides and come out with the dirty dozen and clean fifteen lists helping us to make safer food choices. EWG has been fighting the good fight for all of us, whether we know it or not.” EWG.org

For more MOTHER ESSENTIALS, peep our recent features with Sarah Fritsch of Studio Tigress, artist Lena Corwin, Hello!Lucky’s sister duo, doula and author Latham Thomas, Carla Wingett of Idlewild Floral, Andrea Faulkner Williams of Tubby Todd, Hana Getachew of Bole Road Textiles, artist & author Carissa Potter Carlson, actress & activist Hilary Swank, the co-founders of Hearth Display, author and organizer Aida Mariam Davis, design consultant Joyce Lee, self-care advocate Rachel Garahan, and DJ and director Va$htie Kola.

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Her debut children’s book, The Famous Mavis Davis, is a love letter to the unsung heroes who show up for our kids in big and small ways—and her Mother Essentials list reflects that same thoughtful, heart-forward approach to motherhood. Here, Cerelina shares the beauty, wellness, and parenting essentials that help her feel grounded, cared for, and creatively fueled through every season of mom life.

The Famous Mavis Davis. “A must-read! This charming children’s book has quickly become a staple in our home—funny, fresh, and full of heart. Totally not biased ;).” The Famous Mavis Davis, $16.77, Bookshop and Amazon.

Hibi Glow Nectar. “Like golden hour in a bottle. Just a few drops and my skin looks lit-from-within, even after sleepless nights.” The Glow Nectar, $68, Hibi Youth.

Weleda Face Cream. “An old-school staple that never fails. It’s rich, hydrating, and gives my skin that healthy, European glow.” Skin Food Nourishing Face Cream, $24.99, Weleda.

Classic Flat. “A timeless silhouette I’ll never stop wearing. Comfortable enough for a long day, but still completely pulled together.” Jane Flat, $840, Khaite.

Nutrafol Postpartum. “The only supplement that helped my hair bounce back through various stages in my life. It works, and it’s backed by real science.” Postpartum Supplement, $74.80, Nutrafol.

Vitamin Organizer. “I’m a sucker for organization and this one is actually chic. Keeps my routine on track, even during chaotic mornings.” The Pill Box, $430, Les Collection.

GlucoBitters. “My not-so-secret weapon for sugar cravings and post-meal crashes. They taste herbal and grounding, not syrupy or sweet.” GlucoBitters, $33, Organic Olivia.

Scoot & Ride. “A toddler essential that’s equal parts adorable and functional. It’s sturdy, easy to maneuver, and makes the school run fun.” Scoot & Ride Scooter, $113, Amazon.

Anti-Motion Sickness Smart Goggles. “Yes, they look a bit futuristic—but they actually work! No more drama on long car rides.” Hion Kids Anti-Motion Sickness Smart Glasses, $8.99, Amazon.

Apple Air Tag. “I have these tucked in everything from the nappy bag to my stroller. Peace of mind in one tiny tracker. AND may I suggest this cute air tag holder for strollers and diaper bags.” Apple Air Tag, $24, Amazon. Stroller Charm, $12, Storq.

EllaOla Kids Skincare. “So gentle and beautifully formulated. I trust it completely on sensitive skin and it feels like a mini spa day for the kids.” The Basics Bundle, $80, EllaOla.

Coterie Diapers. “Hands down the best diapers I’ve tried. Super absorbent, breathable, and they just feel luxe.” The Diaper, $95, Coterie.

Essential Bronzer. “The one product I always keep in my bag. It brings warmth and definition, even when I’m jet-lagged or in a rush.” Essential Face Compact, $88, Fara Homidi.

Lyma Laser. “This device is next-level. It’s like bringing a luxury facialist into your home—total game changer for skin tone and texture.” Lyma Laser, $2695, Revolve.

Bembien Sheek Hospital Bag. “Chic meets practical. It’s so beautifully made, I’ve continued using it well beyond the hospital–perfect for travel or everyday errands.” Mira Bag, $350, Bembien.

Kendamil Goat Toddler Formula. “My go-to for toddler milk in the UK. It’s gentle, clean, and my little one actually loves it.” Goat Toddler Formula, $44.99, Kendamil.

LifeVac. “Every parent’s worst nightmare is a choking incident. This is one of those things I hope I never need—but I’m so glad we have it.” LifeVac.uk; LifeVac, $29.99, Amazon.

Classic Button Down. “That perfect oversized fit. Effortlessly polished, endlessly wearable, and just structured enough to feel elevated.” Classic Button-Down, $178, Hatch.

Tracy Anderson Workouts. “I love that I can do them anywhere! It’s not a traditional fitness class—they focus on creating balance in the entire body.” TracyAnderson.com

Mouth Tape. “Beyond the beauty benefits (sculpted jawline, brighter eyes, etc.) it also helps me get into that deep sleep mode.” Mouth Tape, $39, Skinny Confidential.

Milk Stork. “This made pumping on-the-go so much easier. We’re often traveling, so this service is a total lifesaver.” MilkStork.com

For more MOTHER ESSENTIALS, peep our recent features with Sarah Fritsch of Studio Tigress, artist Lena Corwin, Hello!Lucky’s sister duo, doula and author Latham Thomas, Carla Wingett of Idlewild Floral, Andrea Faulkner Williams of Tubby Todd, Hana Getachew of Bole Road Textiles, artist & author Carissa Potter Carlson, actress & activist Hilary Swank, the co-founders of Hearth Display, author and organizer Aida Mariam Davis, design consultant Joyce Lee, self-care advocate Rachel Garahan, and DJ and director Va$htie Kola.

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Her Mother Essentials list is a snapshot of what’s truly getting her through this season: comfy pants that flex with a changing body, unfussy sweatshirts that can handle a little spit-up, tiny accessories that make her feel put together, and everyday rituals—like stroller walks, yoga with baby, thrift store browsing, and library visits—that bring joy and grounding to her days. It’s a warm, real look at the clothes, beauty staples, kid gear, and community touchstones helping Jennie feel like herself while caring for two little ones.

Le Bon Shoppe Pants. “These are my current favorite pants! I have three pairs. I wore a size up during my pregnancy and have been living in them during my postpartum period. I really like the elastic waistband; they’re comfy for my changing body, and I feel very cool when I wear them out of the house. I have a corduroy pair and two colors of denim, but I’m considering getting the leopard print ones!” Arc Pants, $125, Le Bon Shoppe. 

Plain Sweatshirts (That Can Get Thrown-Up On). “My son is 12 weeks old at the time of writing this, and he is a major spit-upper. I’m changing my (and his) clothes at least 2–4 times a day. I really like cropped sweatshirts because they are flattering, loose enough for me to feel comfortable while breastfeeding, and not too precious for the inevitable mess. I especially like the ones from Uniqlo and Gap, or from Le Bon Shoppe if you’re looking for something a little fancier.” Crewneck Sweatshirt, $43, Gap; Pointelle Sweatshirt, $89, Le Bon Shoppe. 

Handker Bandanas. “When I need a little pop of color to make my plain throw-up sweatshirts more interesting, I like to wear a cute bandana kerchief. Handker has a ton of really sweet options, and they are an awesome woman-run company!” No. 106 Posey, $13.30, Handker.

Chubby Tubetti Hoop Earrings. “My husband bought these as an anniversary gift a couple of weeks after I gave birth to my son, and I love them. They make me feel put together even when I am not, and the hoops are small enough that I can safely wear them without fear my son may grab them and tear them out.” Chubby Tubetti Hoops, $548, Catbird.

Micro Claws. “I was hesitant to include one of my own products on this list, but I genuinely love our micro hair claw sets. I think they are a really solid value. You get 6 in a set for under $30. I keep them in my purse and use them when I can’t handle my bangs dangling in my face anymore, or when I need to get my daughter’s hair out of her face while she eats.” Micro Fruit & Flowers Hair Claw Clip Set, $27, Jenny Lemons.

The Doona Stroller. “When my daughter was an infant, I saw all these other parents with this stroller and I was so jealous. A stroller that is also a car seat?! When my son falls asleep on a walk, I just collapse the stroller and bring him inside to finish his nap while I’m working in my office. Such a win! It’s truly worth the high price and temporary use. Typically, babies age out of it by around 15 months, which is a bummer. But nevertheless, I would recommend it to any new mom!” Donna Car Seat + Stroller Set, $650, Crate&kids.

Wubbanub Pacifiers. “I love these pacifiers with stuffed animals attached to them. I think the weight of the stuffie helps the pacifier stay in my baby’s mouth longer, and they are cute. He is only 3 months old, but he loves to cuddle them! I’ve got three on rotation in case one gets dirty or lost.” WubbaNub Brown Puppy Detachable Pacifier, $12.91, Amazon.

Baby and Me Yoga. “My son and I have been attending prenatal and postnatal yoga classes since I was 16 weeks pregnant. The baby-and-me ones are so sweet. I get a workout in, and he just lies on his little mat smiling at me and wiggling around. My class is broken up into one hour of yoga for moms and 15 minutes of baby yoga, which my son lives for. It’s an amazing way to get out of the house and see other moms and babies.”

Coffee Shop + Thrift Store Stroller Walks. “My baby is in his stroller nap phase, so I’ve been getting out of the house almost every day for meandering stroller walks. I grab a fancy drink from a cute neighborhood coffee shop and then wander to the nearby Goodwill. Most days I go home empty-handed, but I’ve found quite a few gems! I feel really lucky to live in a lively San Francisco neighborhood with so many fun things to see and do.”

Wet Brush. “My daughter and I both have very fine hair that gets tangled really easily, and these Wet Brushes are a godsend. I have done a side-by-side comparison between this brush and other nylon brushes on my daughter’s hair, and the Wet Brush gets tangles out without tears. Hallelujah! She has a cute mini one, and I have a big one.” Original Detangler, $10.99, Wet Brush.

Evereden Strawberry Spray. “Speaking of tangly hair, this detangling spray works wonders on my daughter’s hair and sensitive scalp. Plus, it smells like strawberries and the bottle is really darling!” Evereden Kids Detangler Spray, $21.95, Amazon.

Bathing Culture. “My go-to soap. I buy it by the gallon. It smells like groves of redwood trees and moss, and I’m very into it. I like giving bottles as gifts to friends and family; it feels like the quintessential Northern Californian product. I also love the perfume oils and keep them in my bag to help me smell fresh.” Mind + Body Wash, $36, Bathing Culture. Perfume Oil, $44, Bathing Culture.

Monastery Rose Oil Cleanser. “I started using an oil cleanser a few years ago, and I truly won’t use anything else. It completely healed my acne! Plus, it smells amazing and really removes all makeup. Whenever my daughter gets her face painted, it’s the only thing that actually gets everything off cleanly!” Rose Cleansing Oil, $48, Monastery.

Block Shop Textiles Robe. “These robes are gorgeous. I have two! I wore them in the weeks postpartum when I couldn’t be bothered to get dressed, but I also love wearing them lounging around the house. I always bring them with me on vacation. They make a great swim cover-up.” Sidewinder Robe, $165, Block Shop.

Patch Ya Later. “Why carry a boring boat tote when you can have an adorable one with vintage-inspired patches? I have one with John Prine lyrics from one of my favorite songs that reminds me of my husband. We used to dance in the kitchen to ‘In Spite of Ourselves’ during the pandemic, and when I saw it embroidered on a bag, I teared up. Plus, the bag is incredibly handy; it has a zipper and fits so much.” Big Tote, $64, Patch Ya Later.

Book Club. “I started a book club a few years ago with my friends, and it is one of my favorite parts of my life. I began as an occasional reader who read maybe 3–4 books a year, and now I am a voracious reader and read over 30 books in 2025! We meet monthly as long as schedules allow, switch up who hosts, and keep the group very small, just seven of us, which makes it manageable to sync schedules. Thanks to book club, I have a group of women friends that meet up regularly. What a gift!”

The Public Library. “I love the San Francisco Public Library, and I am so lucky to live just a few blocks away from one! My daughter and I go about once a week. She loves to color there, and I get to hoard books. One of my favorite parts is borrowing e-books I can read on my Kindle and audiobooks. We recently bought a CD player for my daughter and borrowed a bunch of CDs, including the K-Pop Demon Hunters soundtrack. It’s been great for getting her away from our phones and listening to music independently and screen-free.” SFPL.org

The Hounding. “Speaking of books, this was my favorite read of 2025! The Hounding is about a group of sisters living in post-Enlightenment-era England who may or may not be turning into dogs? It’s short, beautiful, and slightly scary. Highly recommend.” The Hounding, $25.15, Bookshop.

Craft Fairs. “I’ve been participating in craft fairs for the past 10 years, and they’re still one of my favorite ways to spend a day. While I mostly stick to the big ones each year, like Renegade Craft Fair and West Coast Craft, I love them just as much as a shopper as I do as a vendor. West Coast Craft does an incredible job curating events around the city, including WAVES (their vintage show) and night markets. They’re such a fun place to discover new brands, support small businesses, and run into familiar faces and longtime maker friends. It’s a really special community.” WestCoastCraft.com & RenegadeCraft.com

Thistle. “I started ordering salads from Thistle for lunch because with two tiny kids, I’ve been neglecting my own health and nutrition. Thistle delivers actually yummy salads, snacks, and soups twice a week that aren’t super expensive, are gluten-free (I’m celiac), and very healthy. It feels like I’m doing something right when I eat a Thistle salad for lunch instead of string cheese and a handful of dry cereal.” Thistle.co

For more MOTHER ESSENTIALS, peep our recent features with Sarah Fritsch of Studio Tigress, artist Lena Corwin, Hello!Lucky’s sister duo, doula and author Latham Thomas, Carla Wingett of Idlewild Floral, Andrea Faulkner Williams of Tubby Todd, Hana Getachew of Bole Road Textiles, artist & author Carissa Potter Carlson, actress & activist Hilary Swank, the co-founders of Hearth Display, author and organizer Aida Mariam Davis, design consultant Joyce Lee, self-care advocate Rachel Garahan, and DJ and director Va$htie Kola.

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How to celebrate New Years Eve with kids:

Dress Up. On New Year’s Eve, give your sweats a break and try dusting off a favorite festive dress or jumpsuit instead. Ask the whole family to do the same! If you want to go the traditional NYE route, try something with a little shine, feathers, sequins (we love these affordable sparkly dresses for littles), or mini-tuxedos, suits, and lush velvet options.

Accessorize Head-to-Toe. No need to stop at a NYE outfit upgrade! If you’ve got a little one who loves playing dress-up and “salon,” go to town with your accessories, too. Pull out all of your favorite add-ons (sparkly tiaras, velvet bows, capes, wigs, you name it!), paint your nails, do something fun with your hair, and maybe even try out one of those trendy rhinestone or neon eyeliner tutorials.

DIY Your Party Supplies. Try getting resourceful and creative (and more eco!) when it comes to your NYE party supplies. There are plenty of 2026-themed printables online that you can spruce up with paint and glitter, and we love the idea of using all of your leftover balloons, horns, confetti, sparklers, etc. from past birthday or holiday parties, even if they are in a variety of hodgepodge hues. If you’re really ambitious, check out this DIY Balloon Drop idea, which is sure to be a hit with kids of all ages. (While you’re at it, read up on our tips for throwing a more Earth-friendly party).

Festive Food & Bubbly Drinks. Keep it simple, but festive! Think about ordering in from your favorite local spot, make a favorite appetizer or two, and don’t forget dessert! Chocolate anything will often do. As for beverages, while the adults indulge in bubbly, let your kiddos feel fancy by giving them a flute filled with sparkling apple cider or their favorite flavored fizzy water.

Have A Game Night. Mark the last night of 2024 with a family game night, which could include classic interactive games like charades, Pictionary, Twister, or CatchPhrase, new favorites like the hilarious Pencil Nose, creating your own family-friendly “Minute To Win It” obstacles, or plugging in your karaoke mic and belting out your favorite tunes! You can also create a fun scavenger hunt for the kids to find small treasures around your home.

Reflect & Set Goals. 2025 was a big one in so many ways. Take some time to reflect individually and as a family on how you experienced 2025 (the highs and lows) and the lessons you are taking with you into the year ahead. Be sure to write down the goals, hopes, intentions, or thoughts you have for yourself and your family for 2026. (Here are some prompts to get you started). If you have lost a loved one this year, think about incorporating their memory into your night.

Rally Your Family & Friends. If the pandemic-era has taught us anything, it’s that friends and family are of the utmost importance. If you won’t be able to ring in the New Year with all of your loved ones IRL (nor in the same timezone), you can schedule Zoom calls and FaceTimes to mark the occasion together and share your hopes for 2026.

Countdown Early. If you have little ones whom you need to keep on a schedule, Netflix created a countdown (just type “countdowns” in the search area) for this very reason. You can turn it on right before bed time or any time you gauge the kids are getting tired and ready for bed. Meanwhile, some parents opt to have a “Noon Year’s Party” with the littles, rather than trying to make it a late night.

Kiss At Midnight. Whether it’s an actual smooch or handing your child a Hershey’s Kiss surprise, seal the New Year with this sweet tradition and start 2026 off with lots of love.

For more New Year-themed things to do, check out these great reflection questions for the year ahead and the best guided journals for 2026.

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Sara currently lives in Portland with her husband and their two kids, Winter (17) and Penelope (16). When she’s not building products or advising clients, you’ll find her running in Forest Park, skiing on Mt. Hood, or cheering from the sidelines of her kids’ many sports.

For her Mother Essentials list, Sara shares a deeply personal and values-driven edit. In addition to Studio Tigress favorites, the selections reflect her advisory work with design-forward product companies—with many items from brands she’s working with now or has partnered with over the past years. Many are made in Portland and founded by moms, and all are rooted in thoughtful design. If you’re looking to shop small (and well) this holiday season, consider this a beautiful place to start.

2026 Tall Months Calendar. “A new addition to the calendar assortment for 2026, ‘Tall Months’ is a fun twist on the best selling ‘Months’ design (which is also a good choice).” Tall Months Calendar, $88, Studio Tigress.

Lunar Tracker. “Isn’t it calming to know we can count on the moon? The Lunar Phases calendar offers daily tracking of the moon and its phases, helping remind us to stay connected to the bigger world and our place within it.” Lunar Phases Calendar, $58, Studio Tigress.

Very Important Plates (VIPs). “Make the most of the time you have and the people you adore, by celebrating them often and lovingly with these special plates for special people on special days.” Very Important Plates, $90, Studio Tigress.

La Tigresse. “La Tigresse was developed with 100% organic essential oils to smell like confidence and optimism, with undertones of je ne sais quoi.” La Tigresse, $48, Studio Tigress.

Playdate. “Giftable, handheld, modern nostalgia, in bright yellow, with a crank? Yes please! The ultimate stocking stuffer. This sweet device is new but feels old. It is tech but feels simple. I don’t like video games, but I love the Playdate. I have also loved the opportunity to work with the team at Playdate HQ, which is here in Portland. The space and team are as cool and quirky as this gaming console.” Play.date

Bobine. “When Jessica Helgerson designs a lamp, you know it’s going to be special. Named after traditional turned-wood bobbin lamps—but a little fancier—Bobine is a playful, pretty table lamp available with either a wood or glass base and a glass shade. Jessica and the artisans that make Bobine’s components are all Portland-based lovely people that are a joy to work with. Note that Jessica is also a mom!” Bobine Lamp, $3750, Jessica Helgerson Interior Design.

Grovemade Wall Shelves. “These range from a minimal solution for displaying your favorite pieces, to a large-scale grid fit for your inner librarian. This Portland-based company set out to ‘make cool stuff and have fun doing it’ over 15 years ago, and they are still doing it. I have worked closely with this design-obsessed team for the past year and I can confirm they are nailing what they set out to do (make cool stuff and have fun doing it).” Wall Shelf, $350, Grovemade.

Ratio. “Since 2012 the Portland-based Ratio team has been focused on designing a home coffee solution that marries beauty, simplicity, and quality into a single experience. This team refuses to believe you have to sacrifice one for the other, and is on a mission to have great coffee every day. With this new version, I believe they have nailed it. Having one of these beautiful machines on my kitchen counter is a perk of being on their board for the past several years, but the real delight is getting to work with a team that is so passionate about their products.” Coffee Machine, $799, Ratio.

East Fork Mug. “This is the mug you’ll want to use every single day. Made with love in Asheville, North Carolina, by a team focused on being and doing good. I have spent time in their facilities and had the pleasure of working with their leadership team for many years. I can confirm they are a company that cares and feels more than most. I’ll drink to that (from an amazing mug).” The Mug, $44, East Fork.

Gamblin Set. “Gamblin is the leading oil paint company in America and the factory is right here in Portland. This beginner’s set makes a great gift. Taking an active role on the board of this company gives me every excuse to love color even more.” 1980 Oil Paints & Set, $5.25 to $45, Gamblin.

MADRE Napkins. “MADRE loves rest and food and linen and a feminine economy—what is not to love about MADRE? Like all good things in life, MADRE is evolving and it has been an honor to advise and support the founder on her journey of reinvention. Note that Shay, the founder, is also a mom!” Sobremesa Napkins, $52, MADRE.

The Yo! Store. “My holiday wish list has two things on it: Anything from Yo! and Everything from Yo! Beyond their products, their team and owner are such a bright spot in the Portland community. Sarah, the founder, is also a mom!” Amfora Vase, $175, The Yo! Store.

Exclusive Woonwinkel Blanket. “This Portland boutique is known for color and curation, and this year I am so very proud of this lean and talented team for launching their own exclusive collection, which includes (among other things) the most colorful and giftable throw blankets. We can’t all live in Portland, but we can all shop Woonwinkel online. Kristen, the founder/owner, is also a mom!” Baby Blanket, $142, Woonwinkel.

Nanu Arc Alarm Clock. “A modern analog alarm clock that blends timeless design with thoughtful functionality. With a real mechanical chime for a more mindful wakeup and a discreet digital display for easy setting, Arc is designed to ground your space and support better sleep. Being on the board of this dynamic, young, visionary company has brought me a lot of inspiration and learnings.” Arc Alarm Clock, $299, Nanu.

P.F. Candle Diffuser. “Los Angeles-based P.F. believes that fragrance is an extension of home design, and I agree. P.F. makes their products by hand and after 17 years in business they still manage to deliver the highest quality at approachable price points. This is a business model I admire and feel lucky to be a part of. Kristen, the founder, is also a mom!” Golden Coast Reed Diffuser, $26.50, P.F. Candle Co.

Dimwit. “This ‘coming soon’ hardware company will turn everyone on. Getting to be an advisor to this visionary founder has been a highlight for me this year. Joanna, the founder, is a mom (of 4)!” Dimwit.world

Lanterne Candle in Sweater Weather. “This online-only candle shop is a side hustle for a friend of mine who is a mom, an executive, and a lover of well-designed products. Each candle is poured by hand in the U.S. by women artisans who have resettled as refugees in the country. The porcelain vessels glow beautifully when lit, and can be repurposed as a bud vase, votive holder, planter, or pencil cup. Jess, the founder, is also a mom!” Sweater Weather Candle, $39, Lanterne.

Nike Shoes. “I run many days a week and have done so for the last 30 years. My husband works at Nike, but even if he didn’t I would gush about how obsessed I am with this shoe.” Vomero Plus Sneakers, $180, Nike.

Dad’s Decoy. “My dad passed away and left behind broken hearts and an extensive decoy collection. He loved his decoys, and we loved him. The decoys cannot fill the hole in our hearts, but they do help us continue to love and think about him every day.”

Mia Farrington Art. “I love all of Mia’s bright and colorful work, I also love Mia. Ever since she crashed my wedding 22 years ago (true story!), we have been besties. Watching and supporting her career as an artist to take off has been very cool. Mia is also a mom of 2!” MiaFarrington.com

Brisca. “Sandra is a Portland mom and entrepreneur who is originally from Spain. Her recent launch of Brisca (Spanish olive oil) has been fun to cheer for. Before even tasting the olive oil, I knew I wanted that bottle on my counter. The fact that the olive oil is also exceptional is a bonus!” Olive Oil, $40, Brisca.

North Drinkware. “North Drinkware was the first (and is still the best) company to put a mountain into the bottom of a glass. The visionary founders are dear friends of ours and they are the real deal. Their love for the mountains and quality product is authentic to who they are. What started with Kickstarter over 10 years ago has grown into an extensive assortment full of opportunities to bring the mountains into your home.” Mountain Beer Glasses, $59, North Drinkware.

K&M. “I can never decide what is cooler, these incredible rugs or the people who bring these incredible rugs to Portland. Althouhg I am not sure I need to decide—I can simply love both, and I do. Portland is lucky to have this gem of a shop and the deep expertise of the shop owners. They have been bringing ‘artful rugs for the modern home’ to Portland for over a decade. Katan the founder and namesake is also a mom!” Katandmaouche.com

Mahsa Chai. “This Portland-based brand was brought to life with love by a Portland mom (also named Mahsa) and entrepreneur with a story as delicious as her chai.” Chai, $18, Mahsa.

For more MOTHER ESSENTIALS, peep our recent features with artist Lena Corwin, Hello!Lucky’s sister duo, doula and author Latham Thomas, Carla Wingett of Idlewild Floral, on Andrea Faulkner Williams of Tubby Todd, Hana Getachew of Bole Road Textiles, artist & author Carissa Potter Carlson, actress & activist Hilary Swank, the co-founders of Hearth Display, author and organizer Aida Mariam Davis, design consultant Joyce Lee, self-care advocate Rachel Garahan, DJ Va$htie Kola, designer Rebecca Minkoff, VEERT founder Julia Lang, cookbook author Jenné Claiborne, Neha Ruch of Mother Untitled, model, writer, and activist Cameron Russell, author Nasozi Kakembo, kid-lit talent Bo Lu, artist Suzy Ultman, and Super Smalls founder Maria Duenas Jacob.

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When she’s not painting in her Brooklyn studio, Yum (who was born and raised in Seoul, Korea) is mom to sons Gaang, 21, and Sahn, 16—and a devoted observer of the everyday joys that spark creativity and keep family life grounded. Below, she shares the beloved tools, comforts, and inspirations (including her latest book, A Spoonful of the Sea) that make up her Mother Essentials.

Miyeokguk (Seaweed Soup). “Koreans eat Miyeokguk for their birthday. My new book, A Spoonful of the Sea, is honoring the tradition of serving miyeokguk on birthdays and is inspired by the lives of Korea’s haenyeo. This picture book celebrates the bond between mothers and daughters.” A Spoonful of the Sea, $17.70, Bookshop and Amazon.

Caran d’Ache Crayon. “I got this crayon set when I was in college, and I’m still using them. They are so soft, vivid, and last years and years.” Caran d’Ache Neocolor, $73.99, Amazon.

Arches Watercolor Paper. “This is my favorite working surface by far. It’s quite expensive, so you don’t want to screw up. Yeah, you become a little too careful.” Arches Aquarelle Watercolor Block, Hot Pressed, 9×12 Inch Sheets, $47.76, Amazon.

Monsters by Claire Dederer. “I love being surrounded by books. My recent favorite is Monsters by Claire Dederer.” Monsters: A Fan’s Dilemma, $15.84, Bookshop and Amazon.

Reading Glasses. “Well, well, well, I need reading glasses. I need to order more since I crushed one.” Haley Glasses in Russet Red, $95, Warby Parker.

Kimchi. “My kids love kimchi. Sometimes (only sometimes) I make kimchi. And I use this recipe.”

Libby. “My eyes get tired so easily. So I listen to audiobooks all the time. My cell phone is for this app.” LibbyApp.com

Dove Sensitive Skin Beauty Bar. “I am so annoyed by all the cap-opening and cluttering bottles. So I use this soap for my hair and body. Easy and cheap!” Dove Sensitive Skin Beauty Bar (4-Pack), $9.74, Amazon.

CocoJune Yogurt. “This is so yummy! My new favorite yogurt.” CocoJune.co

Yunchan Lim. “I happened to see him playing up close and became obsessed. Now I listen to this every morning: Rachmaninoff piano concerto No.3.” Listen via Spotify.

Kuro. “My black toy poodle. I tend to stay home happily without stepping outside the door. This little guy makes me go out and take a break from the desk or my beloved couch.”

Pernille on Netflix. “This Norwegian dramedy series is available on Netflix. The show follows the life of Pernille (Pørni), a single mother in her middle age. If you love Sarah Lancashire in Happy Valley, this is your next one.” Pernille via Netflix.

For more MOTHER ESSENTIALS, peep our recent features with artist Lena Corwin, Hello!Lucky’s sister duo, doula and author Latham Thomas, Carla Wingett of Idlewild Floral, on Andrea Faulkner Williams of Tubby Todd, Hana Getachew of Bole Road Textiles, artist & author Carissa Potter Carlson, actress & activist Hilary Swank, the co-founders of Hearth Display, author and organizer Aida Mariam Davis, design consultant Joyce Lee, self-care advocate Rachel Garahan, DJ Va$htie Kola, designer Rebecca Minkoff, VEERT founder Julia Lang, cookbook author Jenné Claiborne, Neha Ruch of Mother Untitled, model, writer, and activist Cameron Russell, author Nasozi Kakembo, kid-lit talent Bo Lu, artist Suzy Ultman, and Super Smalls founder Maria Duenas Jacob.

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1. Teach Your Kids What Gratitude Is and Why It Matters.
Gratitude is feeling and expressing thanks for benefits received. It’s been called “the secret of a happy life.” Studies have found that thankful people are healthier, more alert, sleep better, and have more positive relationships. They also have a stronger sense of purpose and are more motivated to contribute to society. A grateful spirit makes us aware of all that others do for us and inspires us to be helpful in return. Frequent expressions of gratitude do a lot to create a loving atmosphere in the home. Sincerely thanking someone is an act of love.

2. Make Thankfulness Part of Your Family Culture.
Culture shapes character. If we want to raise children who are thankful and kind, we need to create an intentional family culture that prioritizes those qualities. A Family Mission Statement is one way to do that. Identify the core values and virtues you want your family to live by and feel accountable to. Sit down together and ask, “What kind of a family do we want to be?” Get your kids’ input so they feel ownership. Below is the mission statement of a family with four children ages 9, 7, 6, and 4; it hung in the kitchen where they could review it at the start of the week and refer to it when needed:
The Davidson Way
• We commit to being kind, honest, and fair. We don’t lie, cheat, steal, or hurt others.
• We don’t whine, complain, or make excuses.
• When we make a mistake, we learn from it and make up for it.
• We work to keep our minds, bodies, and souls healthy, strong, and pure.
• We live with an attitude of gratitude.
If your Family Mission Statement becomes a continuing point of reference, it will create a shared sense of purpose and identity: “This is how we live; this is who we are.”

3. Cultivate the Virtues That Support Thankfulness.
Gratitude depends on two other virtues: a positive attitude (seeing the good) and fortitude (the ability to overcome adversity). We won’t feel thankful unless we have a mindset to recognize the positive things in our lives that we can be thankful for. When my wife and I find ourselves in a negative frame of mind, one of us will say, “Let’s do positives,” and we take turns remembering the positive things that have happened that day (and there are always positives, even on the worst days). We can teach our kids to do the same. Many kids think life should be easy—free of frustration, disappointment, and heartache—and are unhappy when it’s not. The virtue of fortitude, the inner toughness that enables us to endure pain and suffering, begins with accepting a basic truth: Life is difficult. With our help, our kids can learn to be grateful even for life’s difficulties—and the opportunities they give us to grow in wisdom and strength of character.

4. Teach That Your Attitude is Always a Choice.
Consider as a family these two quotes: “Gratitude is an act of the will. We choose to be thankful, just as we choose to love,” by Anne Husted Burleigh. “We have a choice every day regarding the attitude we will embrace for that day. Life is 10 percent what happens to me and 90 percent how I react to it,” by Charles Swindoll. Do you agree? What does our own experience teach us? Share stories—how have family members managed to stay positive and even thankful despite setbacks and sufferings?

5. Become a Thankful Person by Practicing Thankfulness.
A virtue is a good habit. Habits develop through practice—lots of it. Find opportunities to practice thankfulness in the flow of family life. Consider having gratitude rituals such as starting dinner with a quick round of “gratefuls” (“What’s something you’re grateful for today?”) or, if you do bedtime prayers or another good night ritual, making thanksgiving part of that. Teach kids to say “thank you” even for small things like passing the salt or holding a door. Make it a family practice to sincerely thank anyone who does you a service, such as those who wait on you in stores and restaurants. Teach your children to thank their teachers at the end of a class or school day—and to look for opportunities to thank other school staff like secretaries and custodians who might not get a lot of appreciation.

6. Write Appreciation Notes.
Expressions of appreciation have even more power when we put them in writing. One family had a Thanksgiving tradition of writing a love letter to each of their five children. Each parent’s letters told the kids what they loved and appreciated about them, the ways they had seen them grow during the past year, the talents and character strengths they saw emerging, all the things they cherished. Consider extending this beyond the family by having each family member, once a month, write an Appreciation Note to someone (a family member, a teacher, a coach, a friend) who has done something they’re thankful for. (Mark on the calendar a day when you’ll all sit down and do this.) Brainstorm the kinds of things you could say that would make a person feel appreciated and give an example of the sort of note you might write. Here’s what one 12-year-old girl wrote to her father: “Dad, you are the person who picks me up and dusts me off after I fall. You give me hope when I have none left. You help me with my math even though I get mad easily. Thank you for everything. I love you.”

7. Count Your Blessings.
We’re often told to “count our blessings” if we want to be happy, but how do you actually do that? As a family, make a list of the things you tend to take for granted. If you do this over dinner, think about every person, at every stage, whose work went into the meal you are eating—the farmers and harvesters, the truck drivers, the grocery store staff, the cook. As a follow-up activity, try this from Hal Urban’s Life’s Greatest Lessons: Write across the top of a page, “I am thankful for…” Under that make 3 columns: “People,” “Things,” and “Other.” Then, in the respective columns, list all the people you are thankful for, all the material things you’re thankful for, and anything else you are thankful for (such as freedom, education, friendship, love, peace, intelligence, abilities, health, talents, particular experiences, beauty, and kindness.) For the next 24 hours, read each of your lists four times: (1) when you wake up, (2) after lunch, (3) after dinner, and (4) before going to sleep. Then discuss as a family: What was valuable about doing this? Teachers who have done this with teens say it noticeably improves their attitude.

8. Keep a Gratitude Journal.
Ask each family member to commit to keeping a Gratitude Journal for a week. At bedtime, write down “three or more things from the day you are thankful for.” Do this with your children (you can make the entries for your pre-writers). Each night at dinner, have everybody share something they wrote in their Gratitude Journal from the previous day. Then, at the end of the week, discuss as a family: “What, was good about doing this? How could we continue the spirit of this, even if we don’t keep a Gratitude Journal every day?” In classrooms where children have kept gratitude journals, parents and teachers have observed an increase in their expressions of appreciation and even an improvement in some students’ grades.

9. Cut the Complaining.
The habit of complaining is the number 1 enemy of a spirit of thankfulness. Complaining almost never makes us feel better, usually makes us feel worse, and often sours the mood in the whole family. We want kids to share the responsibility of helping to create a happy family, and complaining certainly doesn’t do that. How to curb it? As a family, take the No Complaints Challenge: Try to go 24 hours without complaining about anything. When the 24 hours are up, discuss as a family: How did we each do? What made this hard? What did we learn from it? Also consider cutting back your children’s screen time; too much of that creates cranky, irritable brains that are disposed to complaining. Reducing screen time has been found to improve kids’ mood, manners, and overall positive behavior.

10. Give Back.
If we are truly grateful for all that others have done for us, we’ll want to “pay it forward.” In that spirit, many families have participated in the new tradition of “Giving Tuesday” (the one following Thanksgiving) by contributing money or service to a worthy cause. This is a chance to consider, as a family, the wonderful work done by charitable organizations in your community and around the world to alleviate suffering and improve the lives of others. Decide together what you’d like to support on this coming Giving Tuesday and how each family member will contribute. Then, if you don’t already do this, set up a system whereby kids divide their weekly allowance equally among three jars: “Spend,” “Save,” and “Give.”

Expressions of thanks cost nothing but will do much to strengthen relationships and foster harmony and happiness in our homes. There’s nothing more important that you can teach your children than this: If you want to be happy, think about all that is good and beautiful in your life, be thankful for it, and then show your gratitude in word and deed.

For more topics like this, check out our Mother stories on Teaching Empathy To Children, The Power Of Play-Based Parenting, and Creating a Hygge Home.

This article was originally published on November 1, 2017.

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